Full Circle Moment...

What happens when you have a quiet space here online, with which you share your story…

And then someone reaches out and invites you to put that story of glory on display?


That’s what happens.

For everyone here who has gleaned hope from this space, I share with you a recording to BOAST about HIS PLANS FOR RESURRECTING MARRIAGES all around the globe.

For those of you who “want to know Christ and experience the mighty power that raised him from the dead….” (Philippians 3:10)

Buckle up. Watch this. Know that you are watching it because THIS is possible for you and He wants you to believe Him for it.

Thank you to EVERYONE who had nothing but kind things to say.

If you or your church are interested in having me come and infuse hope to your group…

It would be an honor.

Click here to inquire about our availability.


His Love Knows No Bounds

"And may you have the power to understand....how wide, how long, how high, and how deep his love is." (Ephesians 3:18)

Stop for just a moment and take a deep breath. All other thoughts aside, focus for one minute on how much God loves His children. YOU included. I know sometimes when we hear about His love for us, even in a daily devotion, we become somewhat callused to the idea. We may even shrug it off....

Something in our heart tells us we are "ok", we don't need or want His love, but our Father is RELENTLESS. He never leaves your side, and is eager to embrace you with His presence. It's in the times that we claim "we dont need it", when we need it the most.

Our Father has glorious unlimited resources to empower you with inner strength! (Ephesians 3:16) So no matter what is going on this very minute, day, or season of life, He is here to help you along. The bible says that as you trust Jesus, He will make himself a home in your heart. (Ephesians 3:17) Though it is too great to fully understand the love of Jesus, let us experience it! (Ephesians 3:19)

Do not be discouraged when the word says that Jesus' love is beyond our understanding, instead be elevated to know that you will spend this lifetime experiencing how wide, long, high, deep His love truly is! We can have it here and now, His love has no bounds! (Hosea 14:14) Then when our time on earth is complete, we will be with Jesus, in His glory! So until then....Try not to fight off his love, but dive in and get soaked in it!

My prayer is that we see what a gift it is to experience God's love on a daily basis. That we really realize that we have an eternity of His presence here and in a time to come where there is no tears. We may not be who we want to be in Christ yet, but we are no where NEAR where we used to be without Him! That we would always give Him praise for being here with us, doing a work in us, and choosing to use us while we are here. No matter how much we may resist, let us take comfort in knowing that His love will empower us, even in the hardest of times.

In Christ,

Better to be a Whore in Church, than a Christian who has Committed Moral Failure?

I grew up hearing a crude expression as a little girl. 

“I was more nervous than a whore in church!”

Believe me. I’ve been the whore in church before. And I find that it is far better to be in that highly celebrated position than it is to be part of a Christian marriage which has been disqualified from ministry because of moral failure.

“I was more nervous than a Christian who committed moral failure in church.”  Yep. Far more nerve wrecking and scandalous.

Let me explain.

You see, when a person like me got saved in my mid twenties, I had “sold” my body for things like cheap dinners on dates with men who never even acknowledged my soul. I was living with a man who had zero intention to commit to me outside of my keeping him from being lonely cold in his bed at night. When Jesus wooed my heart to Himself, I gave up that life and ran far away from it, without ease. I didn’t know what my life was going to look like as a follower of Jesus, but I was all in. 

Thats the kind of story that is (rightly) celebrated by the church. 

As I sit here and write, I recall being baptized and the congregation cheering after I shared what God did to radically change my heart and life completely. I felt loved, welcomed, accepted among the people.

No more hiding. No more secretly using drugs or my body to get me the fulfillment I so badly desired. 

In addition to my new life, I had met and married a godly man who was the complete opposite of the ones before him. He was intentional about giving me his last name from the moment we met, committed to serving the Lord and me. It really was, and is, an incredible story about how God plucks people from the pit and places them in the story created by His design for those who love him. (Romans 8:28)

What does it feel like to be a Christian exposed as a moral failure in the church? 

Oh. I would rather be the whore in church any day than feel the weight of that shame we carried as we walked back into that same church for the first time since our marriage came tumbling down.  

Hand in hand, we walked to the pew on the opposite side of where we used to sit, unable to even entertain the idea of being in the same spot, because we were no longer the same couple who used to sit there. 

Limping at best, we parked in the pew, holding hands for dear life.

Though I was angry with my husband, there was no one else who felt more safe in that moment than he did. Its as if the war in our marriage was put aside in order to celebrate a sacred holiday. I “put down my gun”, so to speak, clinging to him and our bloodied marriage.

It was difficult to look anyone in the eye.

This was a church who loved us well, allowed us to serve in worship, cared for our children, poured out time and resources on our behalf. Talk about massive weight in shame to come back, knowing that from a biblical perspective, we were disqualified from serving at any capacity in the church. 

All the trust and status we had going for us, no longer served as any form of comfort. 

Most friends didn’t know what to say to us. I can understand that. I didn’t know what to say either. My husband and I could only cling to one another and the gospel, relying on the power of Christ and his ability to turn our disaster of a story into sweet redemption. 

Which is Jesus’s thing, by the way.

I take this lesson as a great gift. The gift of empathy for those who are lifting their hands high in worship of Jesus, who are so deep in their secret sin it take God’s exposure to set them free.  Once they are exposed, they are in need of the utmost care! 

Instead of running away in fear of christians who are found in their mess, let us run toward them, offering them the hopeful assurance that it was God’s mercy on their lives for Him to expose them, reminding them that the gospel is ever as powerful for the newly converted whore in church as it is for the saint who has utterly rebelled against the God he loves.

For this is true;

“Your adversary, the devil, prowls around like a roaring lion, seeking someone to devour.” 1 Peter 5:8

When is it Time to Make Lemonade?


You know the expression, "When life hands you lemons..."

Lemons laid out on the counter can last anywhere from 2-4 weeks after being picked and if stored in the refrigerator can last 1-2 months. As handy as this produce information may be, I’d rather like to know…

When is the timing appropriate to take our painful situation and start using it to bring refreshment to others?

How long before we make lemonade?  

One thing is true as believers, “And we know that God causes all things to work together for good to those who love God, and are called according to His purpose.” (Romans 8:28) (However, to all the spouses out there who are knee deep in suffering because of infidelity, I firmly believe there is a season to file that scripture away for later observation.)

We decided early on, that in order to provide authentic blog content for Christians walking through a painful marital issue of adultery, the timing then was right to move forward in sharing our story.

A couple lemons grabbed from the bag.

I had a couple people prefer we not share our story at all, but I digress.

For the majority though, people have thanked us for being so candid, and there are some who today will receive comfort from browsing the archive, because they too, just found out their spouse was unfaithful.

Our lemonade is still providing refreshment, praise be to God.

While we have been absent on the blog frontier a while, nothing about our lives have been quiet during that time. In fact, the big bag of lemons that I thought were running out of shelf life, seemed to have sprouted trees that are budding with signs of new fruit. 

Thats the thing about painful events in our lives; it often produces opportunity in abundance.

Now its time to make a few more glasses.

Over the next… who knows how long, we would like to offer a few more posts. A time of transition has taken place where we’d like to share with you some sides of recovery that just aren’t glamorous; 

1. The pain of friends who pulled away from us and our mess.
2. How it feels to show up to church with the “letter A”.
3. Trembling when sharing your story for the first time with new friends.
4. The longing to do ministry despite disqualification.

But we would also like to like to offer a side of redemption from the Lord that is going to change the course of our lives forever;

5. Being given a business opportunity that can raise enough money to sponsor couples who can’t afford counseling.
6. The dream to run/fund some kind of retreat center for Christian couples who are in recovery.
7. The comfort that comes from having friends who never left your side.
8. How living in lowly places causes a person to truly see God’s glory.

For those who have been called to be a heralding hope stirrer to all, the cost of knowing Hope personally, is great.

Thank you for giving our family an opportunity to share with you the love of Jesus and supporting the content we have shared. Thank you for recognizing that we don’t offer a hope that is unable to speak to our mess, but rather comes down into the deepest darkest territory of it in order to restore it.

I believe with every fiber of my being that restoration is made available to all of us today, and I pray God gives us wild opportunities to share the love of Jesus with many couples in our future days to come.

X O 

Because of what Jesus came and did on behalf of our sin, “let us strengthen the hands that are week and the knees that are feeble, and make strait paths for our feet, so that the limb which is lame may not be put out of joint, but rather be healed.” (Hebrews 12:12-13)


New Adventures & New Life

Things are a lot different these days.

Our marriage is different, our family dynamic is changed, and hope permeates this house like it never has before. The fruit of resurrection tastes awfully sweet, making solid our commitment to keep up the hard work that comes with rebuilding our marriage.

When the conduit is broken.

I couldn’t put my finger on it then, but while adultery was present, I sensed my husband's prayers for me and our family were hitting the ceiling, so to speak. Along with the difficulty to connect with one another (no matter how many date nights we had), there was also the impression that the separation was even bigger between Burris and God.

“Husbands, in the same way be considerate as you live with your wives, and treat them with respect as the weaker partner and as heirs with you of the gracious gift of life, so that nothing will hinder your prayers.” 1 Peter 3:7

When the conduit is fixed.

Since everything was exposed, we are experiencing the fruit of repentance, reconciliation and (daily) restoration, a joy which is astonishing. Prayers are no longer hindered for my husband, making our lives full of adventure, laughter, and the ability to see enemy tactics. The connection we now have, though requiring heaps of diligence on our part, is full of adventure and wonder. 

Thanks to the Spirit, there is a renewed sense of purpose and calling on our lives.

We have no idea what is in store for us, but the presence of God is tangible in our home again, causing us to be eager for the unfolding of our story, together. I feel grateful to be on the receiving end of unhindered blessing.

I guess we do know ONE thing in store for us…

I snuggled in with my son one night, running my fingers along his ear as his eyes rolled back into his head, nursing himself to sleep. With every gulp, waves of nausea crashed over me, causing me to look around the room for something to throw up in. A startling thought jumped to the forefront of my mind..could I be pregnant?

Yes, I could. And, I am.